This post is part of Blogging Abroad's 2017 New Years Blog Challenge, week two:
The Danger of a Single Story.
“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is
not that they are untrue,
but that they are
incomplete. They make one story become the only story.” – Chimamanda Adiche
Finding something to write about for this challenge took me
most of the week, until it hit me square in the face. I couldn’t believe I
hadn’t thought of it before, because the single story I’ll write about today is
something that I deal with every single day in my village, without fail. It is
one of the biggest challenges (if not THE biggest) that I have faced during my
service, but it is also one of the most gratifying challenges to meet when I’m
able to successfully: gender roles.
Mayan culture is very traditional in terms of the gender
roles that are employed. Women do specific things, men do specific things, and
children do specific things depending on whether they’re boys or girls. There
is very little wire crossing that occurs among those roles, though it does
happen occasionally. The interesting thing though is that when it does happen,
it goes completely unnoticed by everyone in the community. I think that’s
mostly because it’s a temporary thing; if it were a repetitive breaking of
gender norms like it is whenever I do something that would be considered “a
woman’s job” (which I often hear about it from others as if it’s very strange),
it would be very different. This is very hard for me personally, as I’d much
rather think of these as “people’s jobs,” but this is the culture that I live
and work in, so I have to adapt to environment around me. This has become the
single story that the community I live in has about themselves: that your role
and job in society is determined by your gender.
So what does that look like?
The river where I wash my clothes every week |
Building a small thatch house to cover the corn husks |
Children generally follow what their parents do. Boys often help
their fathers at the farm or around the house. They tend to be able to play and
relax more, because they usually have more freedom than the girls do. Most boys
don’t continue on to go to high school after they’re either done with primary
school after standard 6 or turn 14 and are allowed to drop out. Girls usually
help out their mothers around the house, and are expected to help run things
when they’re as young as 8 years old. If there’s more than one girl in the
house, the oldest usually runs things and will eventually teach the younger
ones. They have very little time to play or relax unless they’re too young to
help out around the house. Girls tend to get married very young in Mayan
culture, sometimes as young as 13 or 14, but usually closer to 16. More girls
tend to go to high school than boys actually, but even that is rare as most
girls marry young or stop school to help their mothers out at home. High school
attendance is very low in Mayan culture across the board.
But why has all that been such a challenge? Well, for two
main reasons: 1. I’m not expected or assumed to be able to do some of the
things that women do because I’m a man, and 2. When I do those things are
attempt to learn, I get looked at as if what I’m doing is strange or amusing by
the men (sometimes I even get called a woman), and the women tend to think it’s
either funny or that I’m incapable of doing those things correctly. It’s also
hard for my job sometimes, as it’s not culturally appropriate for me, a single
man, to visit the house of a married woman when her husband is not at home
(which tends to be the entire day from 6a-5p while they’re working). If
I’m walking around the village and get
hailed by one of the women during this time it’s acceptable to go visit, but
this doesn’t happen too often. These few things make doing daily tasks, whether
chores or working in my capacity as a community health educator, difficult
sometimes. I have to wash my clothes every week at the river, which because of
the culture, could damage my credibility with the men of the village if they
don’t take me seriously for doing what they see as “women’s work.” That being
said, I also go to the farm, chop firewood, (attempt to) chop the lawn, carry
big bags of corn around, and generally help out with as much as I can to show
the men that one person can work effectively in both the roles that they see.
As a man, it’s easier for me to get along with the men, so I also do a lot of
the things that women “are supposed to do” to learn, to work and live for
myself, and to gain rapport with the women. I can successfully make tortillas,
wash my clothes and dishes, clean, buy at the market, and watch the kids, which
help show that I can work not just with the men, but with the women too.
Eventually I’ll make it to cooking, but that’ll take some time yet.
That’s the part that I see as the most gratifying when my
message comes across to the people of my community – it doesn’t matter what your
gender is, everyone is capable of working and doing all of these jobs. Whether
it’s my host mother chopping firewood, the rare single man or single woman
cooking or working at the banana farm, or me baking tortillas, the exceptions are there and they’re okay. They paint a much
more complete picture of a person than the single story that many in this
community believe define their roles in this society. The days that I make
progress in breaking these gender stereotypes are my best and my favorite by
far, because it tells me that I can make some sort of impact here, and that the
people here aren’t just stuck in their single stories. They tell us in the beginning
of training that Peace Corps is “the hardest job you’ll ever love,” and when I
think about things like this, I understand why. Working through this challenge
will likely be one of the hardest things I’ll do during my service, but I’ve
already seen glimpses of the light at the end of the tunnel with some of the
people I’ve touched. Those moments make the hard times worth it because I know
I’m doing at least some good here, and that I can always do more.
Best,
Bryan
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